:: I N F I D E L I T Y ::

::24-03-05::

As usual, yesterday while i'm on my way to the office. Turn on the radio and gottchaaa!! .. There's some interesting topic being discussed on the air - which is "INFIDELITY" - men or women?..ha ha ha ... What have been surprising me the most was among 5 callers (** before i arrived at the office) that called the DJ's, 4 out of 5 are girls or womens with their own confession.... Goshh!! This was awesome !! If this is what they're searching for or so called of - GENDER EQUALITY....WELL DONE !!. :P

But, the truth is men cannot be a women and women cannot be a men. That's the fact. So please stop arguing or debating on the gender equality etc etc.. because for me it's all Bulls**t..(sorry for saying that). I'm not going to discriminate nor down sizing women capability or ability. You guys have prove it that you're capable on certain things that before this was dominated by mens. A lot of achievement have been reached. So, what else do you guys searching for ??

I hate the words - "GENDER EQUALITY" caused it leads to a lot of misinterpretation and perception by someone. It's getting worst lately when there's one women - Aminah Wadud, a profesor in "Islamic Studies" at Virginia Commenwealth University become an "IMAM" for one Friday prayer which being held there. What the heck !! Is she nuts? Can't she ever thinkin' of what she had done can digress people aqidah? We can't simply menghalalkan yang haram or mengharamkan yang halal, right? At some point, i can't really understand when people who're brainy or brilliant enough doing something that is not accepted by both logical or spiritual thinking. Who they think they are huh!?

Back to main topic here - regarding female infidelity? What are they looking for? are they do it for love? or they do it for sex or they do it to feel beautiful and boost their self-esteem?? ermm.. Basically, female infidelity is not a new phenomenon, but it is a fact of life that many people, including women, don't want to acknowledge. While the cheating man has long been the subject of boasts, jokes, novels and movies, the unfaithful woman is now getting more attention and scrutiny. And justifiably so. Whereas decades ago, the unfaithful women was a rarity, an abnormality, but today's it is more likely to cheat than her predecessors.

The reasons women cheat vary considerably. Some get involved in extramarital affairs because they are lonely, others because they want to escape the monotony of marriage. Still others are motivated to cheat due to revenge after they find lipstick or other tell-tale signs of their husbands' infidelity. Then there are the selfish, character-flawed women who marry good men who love and take care of them but continue to consort with other men for sexual excitement or for the money and other material goods the men can provide. These is only some of the point, but the truth is only the women or person itself knowing why are they doing so.

For various reasons, many women are emotionally needy, and they sometimes seek something outside of marriage/relationship to confirm that they are okay, that they are beautiful and desirable, that they are sexy, that somebody loves them for the real women they are. Sometimes the husband takes the wife and the marriage for granted, and she feels used. He never wants to go out for dinner or a movie. He hardly wants to talk and shows little interest in her job, her desires or her dreams. In fact, their conversations mostly revolve around home repairs and the children. A woman in such a situation is a prime candidate to seek self-assurance outside the marriage.

In today's society, there is much emphasis on achievement and accomplishment, on having prestigious commodities, such as a fabulous home and a stylish car, as well as fashionable clothes, jewelery and electronic toys. People work hard, and they play hard, so hard they often neglect their emotional lives. Romance is removed, and the marriage/relationship becomes just a physical relationship or involvement.Many women need more than that, and sometimes they go outside the marriage/relationship to fulfill that emotional need. Most women are having affairs because they are lonely for a more real relationship.

Revenge? When a woman finds lipstick stains on her husband's clothing, it brings out the worst in her. Especially if she has been a devoted wife and mother who has sacrificed her career for the sake of her husband and family. Some women admit that they have embarked upon affairs only after their husbands confessed to or were caught in their own indiscretions. For these women, revenge is sweetest when they keep it to themselves.

Like some men, there are women who are thrill-seekers. They love or need their husbands and wouldn't think of leaving them. But they want more than their spouses can or are willing to provide. They are tired of the monotony of monogamy. It is a common fact that marriages grow stale after a few years, especially after the arrival of children. And if the couple doesn't make an effort to keep the thrill and excitement in their marriage, the wife just might seek that fulfillment elsewhere.Most relationships, if you've been in them long enough, reach a plateau. But there are those who don't want to reach that dreaded plateau. When they feel that the marriage has reached that level, they go outside of the marriage to find that spark.

Despite the numerous reasons that women give for cheating, none serves as justification for this unfaithful act. It would be prudent for couples to reassess their relationships and try to breathe new life, excitement and romance into their marriages/relationship. Without sufficient stimulation, any long-term relationship will grow stale. Successful and happy relationships blend friendship and companionship with passion in a cycle of ever-changing intensities.